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The suspicious mind Part I

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Dr. Lee Outlaw

The Suspicious Mind

Suspicion

Are you suspicious?

Chances are if you’re like most people, you have your own unique set of suspicions.

It might be about a politician, a friend, an actor or even a family member but in reality suspicions abound.

Strictly speaking, suspicion is defined as a feeling that someone is possibly guilty of a crime or of doing something wrong, a feeling that something bad is likely or true or a feeling of doubt without proof or on slight evidence.

In essence, suspicion is distrust; a distrust that breaks down relationships, families, beliefs and all too often emotional, mental and spiritual stability.

Suspicions are seldom founded, often dis-proven and in many cases become the cause of serious crimes and physical harm or even death.

Suspicion is a close cousin to greed and jealousy of which an argument can be made as to which emotion or action leads to the other. In other words Suspicion often leads to jealousy or greed and similarly greed and jealousy many times results in a suspicious mind.

One of the greatest examples of suspicion and all its fundamental intricacies is the Alfred Hitchcock 1941 romantic psychological thriller Suspicion  directed by Alfred Hitchcock, starring Cary Grant and Joan Fontaine.220px-Suspicion_film_poster

In the film, a shy spinster runs off with a playboy (Cary Grant), who turns out to be penniless, a gambler, and an overall dishonest man in the extreme. The character played by Joan Fontaine comes to suspect that he is also a murderer, and that he is attempting to kill her; as such, the perfect example of the “suspicious mind”.

In today’s social media and instant information age, a suspicious mind would seem to be far from the norm but unfortunately it is seemingly more apparent than ever.

Over the next four weeks I will discuss the relationship between suspicion, paranoia, doubt and secrecy and how to cope with every aspect of the conspiratorial mindset.

I will discuss the inter-relationships of each as well their unique differences.

It is important to remember that not all suspicion is bad. Suspicion can be used for good as well as bad.

Suspicion has often stopped crime, war and even prevented illnesses and catastrophes and is a mainstay in almost every sport. What a sports team suspects the other team will do offensively can often win the game.

As Elvis Presley told us in his 1962 hit “Suspicion”:

Every time you kiss me, I’m still not certain that you love me
Every time you hold me, I’m still not certain that you care
Though you keep on saying you really, really, really love me
Do you speak the same words to someone else when I’m not there

Suspicion torments my heart
Suspicion keeps us apart
Suspicion why torture me?

Suspicion is the ultimate temptress that if allowed, will send most people to a nervous breakdown, daily prescription medication and lifelong therapy.

In Part II I will discuss suspicion, paranoia, doubt and secrecy and the general conspiratorial mindset; their differences and their relationships.

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The Suspicious Mind

The Suspicious Mind

A four part Counseling series

Beginning November  1st

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How to cope with suspicion, paranoia, doubt and secrecy.

Learning to deal with every aspect of the conspiratorial mindset.

Flood victims need emotional and spiritual strength in the time of storm

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The Texas floods are a firm reminder of the devastation which can be caused by violent weather. It can almost instantly bring destruction of life and property changing thousands of lives forever.

We have seen the pictures and videos of the rising water and people being rescued from isolated areas caused by the floods but that’s not the entire picture; there are also the unseen pictures of the devastation brought to the minds and spirits of the victims of the flood.

This is in reference to my new Examiner.com article,

Flood victims need emotional and spiritual strength in the time of storm

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A psychoneurosis

Psychologically speaking, hysteria as a phenomenon is a psychoneurosis marked by emotional excitability.

More simply defined, it is behavior exhibiting overwhelming or unmanageable fear or uncontrollable emotion and frustration; a sense of hopelessness yet with feeling and determination.

The problem occurs when a mind or minds conditioned in hysteria begin to produce hysterical results. Read the rest of this entry »

If they’re not lying they’re probably dying

 

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Dr. Lee Outlaw

Dr. Lee Outlaw’s latest Christian Counseling article from the Examiner.com

 

We have all lied; in fact, let’s be honest, we all do lie. . . . . . 

 

 

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When going it alone is not enough

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Dr. Lee Outlaw

It doesn’t matter what the addiction is but especially alcohol and controlled substance addicts require professional help to initiate the recovery process.

For some of the minor addictions (and alcohol and controlled substances are not minor addictions), spiritual help from a minister or prayer group might be all that is needed.

 

Dr. Lee Outlaw’s guidelines for identifying when the need of professional help for addicts is necessary in his latest Christian Counseling article from the Examiner.com #examinercom #LeeOutlaw #Drtruthman3